I keep thinking as soon as things settle down I'll post more often and then they don't so I don't.
One of the concepts I learned in my therapy experience was the idea of The Healing Image. The basic idea is that you have this picture in your head of the person you'd like to become. This person has the character traits you wish you had, has accomplished the goals you've set for yourself, handles conflict the way you would prefer to, is basically living the life you would live if there were no personal barriers.
You then take apart this idealized version of you. You figure out what parts are different from who you currently are and you pick one to work on. You preferably do this in some way you can keep track of, most likely through a journal of some sort. I figure I can track this sort of thing on my blog and shuffle any really personal stuff off to a journal. At the very least it should give me more to post about.
The vision I see of me has graduated from college with a computer science degree and is working as a programmer. He still enjoys art, though, and sculpts, draws, paints and messes around with computer graphics. He's working on his own side business either developing web pages or computer games of some sort as a creative outlet that earns some money on the side or even just for fun. He's somewhat politically active, fighting for causes and individuals in which he believes. He's not a pushover, unafraid of making his opinion known while remaining tactful and gracious to those around him.
He's also smoking hot. Wait... there's no goals to set there.
Uh he's humble too.
So my first trait I'd like to work on is becoming assertive without pushing past that into the less-socially-acceptable aggressive. I'd like to be able to make my needs and wants known instead of deferring to whomever has the loudest or most charasmatic voice. Part of gaining this assertive trait is recognizing that I have valid needs and wants. It's easy to lose yourself if you feel everyone else is of more worth than you are.
Tomorrow I'll post more about one of the methods I learned in my goal to become more assertive.